Where is Grant Taylor When You Need Him?

While it often operates to the exclusion of all others in the mind of an eating disorder sufferer, the fact is there is a voice somewhere inside all of us that is demeaning and hyper-critical.  It would have us believe many things about ourselves – that we are unloved, that we are not worthy of love, that the shame all of us feel at one time or another is well-founded, that we are incapable of the task at hand, let alone greatness.  It is a litany of lies and distortions, but, left unrebutted, it can have serious, even fatal consequences.  For that reason, I believe it is imperative that all of us have someone in our corner who is fully committed to instilling in us what I like to refer to as an “opposite” voice, one that acknowledges and validates our struggles, our fears, our sense of inadequacy and our pain, while simultaneously encouraging and coaxing us to move forward. At times, the “opposite voice” will need to be soft and reassuring – almost comforting.  At other times, however, when our journey grows more difficult and our voices of self-doubt and unworthiness become persistent to the point of defiance, the “opposite voice” may need to become louder, more emphatic and unequivocal.  In all instances, however, the goal here is simple, but critical:  Ultimately, the “opposite voice” has to drown out its hurtful and self-limiting counterpart just long enough for us to catch a glimpse of our true potential, and hopefully, create a desire to catch another glimpse, and another, and another.


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